Biba Speaks

"Focus on the goal, seek wisdom and be a contented spirit" - Biba At some point in our lives we wanted to have something someone had. You wanted to be like your friend, wanted to be popular,smarter, richer, prettier or successful. You probably weren't happy the way things turned out for you or you are just not satisfied or envious. Let's address Envy, shall we? Being envious is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck. In order words, being jealous. There are some benefits to negative emotions. I would stress on the upside and downsides of Envy. On the positive side, envy seems to create attention to people in the world who are the targets of envy.  In one study, participants either wrote about situations in which they experienced envy or they wrote about everyday situations that were unrelated to envy.  Later, they read newspaper articles about other college students.  The people who were pr...

It has been a while i posted on here, feels like forever. For some time now I have been posting articles related to finances, self development, etc. Majority of the articles were not written originally by me, and that is about to change. I am embarking on this journey where anything I post would be original and I'd be responsible for it. I really love writing. Some things are just better written down than said out loud, right? Lol Line by line I would soar through, who's with me? I am just as excited as you are. There are always people who are into the old way of doing things. I don't think it's a bad thing necessarily, but things change - nothing stays the same. If you can stay true to yourself, you're always going to be legendary - Lil Uzi Vert This is me taking another big step into writing. I often look back and ask myself why I decided to start a blog, and it just really comes back to helping and caring for people who find shelter in my posts, experie...

Does shyness get the better of you sometimes? You’re not alone. Some people have an air of shyness about them. This can have knock-on effects; people may see you as someone who lacks confidence, a worrier, someone who doubts themselves or maybe even someone who’s not worth talking to. Not a great start if you’re trying to impress. Let’s be honest, when faced with a new or challenging situation, feelings of shyness can hit us all. But for some of us, these feelings take control. Worry and anxiety overtake our thought processes and everything else goes out of the window. This can happen to anyone. Doing something when you don’t feel comfortable has a strange effect on our mind and body. One of my students told me that she absolutely dreaded going to the school gates to pick up her son from school. She’s a naturally quiet person, she hates speaking in groups and finds meeting new people really challenging. She made excuses not to have to wait at the gate or would time her a...

How can you learn positive things from your enemies? * First of all, they are brutally honest with you because they have no interest in sugar coating things to remain in your good graces. * Second, you are important to them; sometimes even more important than their friends because most of your enemies will value themselves by the amount of envy you have for them. * Third, there is no person in this world that doesn’t have something positive to give you. Now let’s see the 10 teachings: 1.Evaluate yourself by your own standards. Not everybody likes you no matter how hard you try. Therefore, it is counterproductive to live your life only to please others; please yourself. Self-esteem is a way of being and not something that you have or don’t have. 2. Rejection is momentary so don’t carry it with you more than 20 seconds. Regroup, find a different way of getting what you want and move on. Rejection is not a failure; it is only a response and when you don’t like the res...

Success is a hard nut to crack but not impossible to achieve — if you are sharp on your focus, dedication and hard work. So, how do you think the legendary people who have, or are changing the world treaded the route to  success ? Well, at their core they are simple human beings just like you, but it’s their commitment to success and a bunch of great habits that have made them the “greats” they are today. Here are the seven powerful habits which will put you on the the road to success. 1. An early rise The wise men were right when they said “the early bird catches the worm” and early rising is one of the most common among the powerful habits here. It’s great to start your day early and you will always have more time to work when you set the alarm for 7 a.m. rather than getting up at 10 a.m. (or earlier than 7 a.m. if you can). The morning assures a certain kind of unmatched freshness that re-energizes the mood and makes you better prepared for taking on tasks and cha...

Have you heard the quote “Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life”? Here are 5 indicators that tell you that you’ve found your passion as a career: 1. You tap dance to work.  This was a phrase that Warren Buffett uses to describe his job. He used it even before he got rich. A great indicator of your success is jumping out of bed in the morning. You cannot even wait to get to work. You are enthusiastic about your job and love every part of it. You work with only people you love. 2. Money is awesome , but you do it regardless of the money, and the money comes anyways. You are so delighted that you actually make money from this. Not just a little, but a lot. You love what you do and are great at it, but your primary motive was never for the money. You end up making a lot of money anyways because of the passion and extra work you put into it. 3. Your happiness and energy rubs off to other people.  You are super motivated by what you do. Your energy...

Some days, you feel a little more doubtful than you usually do. Maybe you have multiple stresses that have accumulated, maybe you just had a bad day, or maybe it’s for no particular reason at all. Whatever the cause, everyone experiences a lack of confidence at one point or another. And the good news is that with a little bit of investment in yourself, boosting your confidence can be fun, easy and satisfying. 1. Get Energized You know that feeling of being weighed down, lacking  motivation  and just not feeling your best. Well, a lot of that can be turned around with just 5-10 minutes of physical activity. Even putting on some music and dancing around your living room, or going for a light walk can get your confidence juices flowing. In the same way that moving around can energize you, resting or taking a short nap can have similar positive effects too. 2. Talk About It Talking through personal issues with someone you trust can have a profound impact on confidence...

There is no benefit of sticking to that warm and safe zone that is very comfortable. The best way to achieve self-development is getting out of your  comfort zone . You will encounter new exciting experiences once you step out of your comfort zone. You will find freedom from boredom outside such a comforting zone. This article presents seven practical ways to break out of your comfort zone. Some of these ways are familiar, and this presentation will just be a reminder of what you know. Education Education plays a critical role in shaping the way you think and behave. You cannot move out of your comfort zone unless you develop the mind. One thing about the comfort zone is that it protects you from imaginary dangers. Education will assist you to determine whether the risks you are thinking about exist or not. You have to do some research because the things may not be as scary or as difficult as they appear. Moreover, you should not make a conclusion before you critical...

Imagine waking up feeling excited about the day; you feel motivated and energetic to begin working on your dreams. You exercise, you plan for your day, you work on your most important task first, you get results, and you feel passionate about what you do. How is that for a great morning? Morning is the most important time of the day because if you set things right, everything will go smooth and follow according to plan. Sadly, most people only imagine going through a great morning and a great day, in reality, they always rush, skip their breakfast, get stuck in the jam and are always feeling tired with no energy when they reach their office (or begin the day). So how can we turn this around? Simple, here are 7 morning rituals or morning routines that will set you up for greater  motivation  and productivity. I have followed these routines for years, and I’m still feeling great and productive each morning. If you want to be successful and accomplish more in life, y...

It is not what happens to us, but how we react that makes or breaks us. Life throws things at us when we least expect, some things are great, others are difficult. It is fascinating to watch the difference in peoples’ reactions and how some individuals can find good in basically anything, a silver lining in every cloud. Others fall apart when difficult circumstances arise, believing they are being victimised and showing little resistance to the situation at hand. It is important to note that the positive people are not the ones who gush positivity all day and night, going over the top about life and how wonderful it treats them. That’s just a step too far, I’m talking about realists who go through their day with a glass half full approach, choosing not to fall down when things don’t go to plan or a curve ball rolls out in front of them when least expected. We’d all love to be like this and here’s the way how. We need to get out of BED and grab the OAR. “What the heck doe...

In order to have a successful career and a healthy lifestyle, you should have a set of skills that increase your productivity. A person with high productivity is a person who’ll be a leader of his generation. For you to improve your productivity, you should have these 6 very important skills. 1. A good planner A successful man’s best friend is his notebook because it keeps him organized and helps him plan his activities. Before going to bed you should take a look at your next day activities. You should plan them in a way that will increase your efficiency and will make use of your time in a productive manner.By knowing your plan for the entire day, you will be able to optimize the resources you use for every activity and use them more effectively. 2. Early bird If you want to have a highly productive day, it should start early in the morning. Having more time to plan your activities and to figure out the problems that appear along the way will increase your performance. If...