Upsides and downsides of Envy

"Focus on the goal, seek wisdom and be a contented spirit" - Biba

 At some point in our lives we wanted to have something someone had. You wanted to be like your friend, wanted to be popular,smarter, richer, prettier or successful. You probably weren't happy the way things turned out for you or you are just not satisfied or envious.
Let's address Envy, shall we?
Being envious is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck. In order words, being jealous.
There are some benefits to negative emotions. I would stress on the upside and downsides of Envy.
On the positive side, envy seems to create attention to people in the world who are the targets of envy.  In one study, participants either wrote about situations in which they experienced envy or they wrote about everyday situations that were unrelated to envy.  Later, they read newspaper articles about other college students.  The people who were primed with envy by writing about it spent more time reading the articles about other students and remembered more about the students than the people who were not primed with envy.

Another study found that this increased attention and memory for people happens most for those people who provoke envy.  A third study ruled out the possibility that this result was based on other emotions like admiration for the person.

So, the upside of envy is that it helps you to pay attention to people who have things that you want.
What is the downside?
When you are experiencing envy, it seems to get in the way of doing other thinking.  There is quite a bit of research suggesting that stressful emotions can get in the way of thinking.  Envy is like stress in that it is a negative emotion.  Consistent with the research on stress, people who were experiencing envy spent less time than people who were not envious working to do a difficult task in which they had to unscramble letters to form words.
Putting this all together, then, envy is an emotion that may help you to get what you want in life by allowing you to focus on people who have things that you desire and to learn about those people.  The cost of this focus, though, is that it makes you worse at focusing on other types of thinking.  Finally, like anything else, too much envy is clearly a problem.  If you spend all of your time focusing on what other people have that you do not, you will not spend enough time doing what is necessary to get what you want out of life.
Be focus, there's time for everything. Focus on the goal,  don't rush the process,  avoid shortcuts. Hard work 


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